One common definition of committing – and the most widely used most would agree – is to pledge one’s self to a certain cause. Whether that cause is great or small, to commit to something means to stick it out. How many of us have actually managed to commit to something for a long period of time?
New Years Day is a fantastic example of this. Without trying to sound like a cynic, millions of people will experience the ticking over of the current year to the next and believe that this is their time to commit to a particular course of action, whether this is to lose weight or to quit smoking or to devote more time to themselves. Most people fail in this, and fail quite quickly. What is our issue with committing to something?
Time. Time is the issue. Universally, time has always been an issue with people either believing that they have too much or not enough. We as a species want to see results that we believe are worth the time we commit to these (mostly) self-improving actions. Sadly, most of us are stuck in a world in which we believe fairness exists and that we should be compensated accordingly for time spent “living without”.
From my own experiences, I have found that I am unable to commit to a lot of things because of a selflessness that gets in the way. I will move the Earth for people who need assistance without reason but when it comes to committing to doing something for myself however, I struggle massively. When we assist others in one of their commitments, we see an instant reaction and as a consequence gain an immediate sense of accomplishment. This recompense seems adequate to the amount of time we put in.
In order to be able to commit to something fully, we need to understand that we are worth just as must as our family member and our best friend and we do not need any more of a reason to commit to something other than “because I want to”.
Appreciate your own commitments as much as you appreciate others’.
We should all take a minute to enjoy the simplicity of what paper is – a material designed to be drawn upon and engraved in order to portray information. I can go to the supermarket and buy 500 sheets for £3 easily, which is bewildering considering the source.
Maybe we can stretch a thought to a second minute, and understand what the creation of paper has allowed us to do. Pieces of paper have allowed us to construct the most beautiful and horrific of thoughts and store them for countless generations to see. Paper can be folded into intricate patterns and designs, can be folded into a plane which can soar across a room. Mostly, paper allowed us as human beings to express feelings that we were unable to vocalise due to fear.
The relationship we have with written words is truly different to those words spoken, we often don’t realise the vast level of difference between them. Is it because spoken words somehow seem less permanent? Or because more time has been taken to ensure these words are communicated? Who knows. All I know that reading words on a sheet of paper, can be the most rewarding and the most devastating experience one will ever experience.
The humble loop. A shape and design we have never really put much thought into, I imagine? When actually placing thought into the idea of what a loop is though, the importance and gravitas of the loop is instantly apparent.
In a physical sense, the loop is one of the most perfect shapes that can be found within this universe – or should I say almost found – as it could be argued no loop is perfect. When considering what a loop can symbolise however, the symbolism transcends that of most ideas within existence. A shape that has the power to go on forever, a shape that hints at completion and cyclical events, the only shape that symbolises love and the shape that defines infinity.
Understanding how people understand the idea of the loop, in my opinion, is to understand people full stop. The loop can be seen as safe and secure, binding and predictable. For some people however, the loop can be seen as monotonous, infinite yet asphyxiating, the root of the seemingly endless grind through life.
Remember that the loop is a shape like any other, one that can be utilised like any other. Don’t work around the loop, allow the loop to work around what you want.
Rumination – the art of deep thinking
Rumination is arguably one of the most focused upon skills we are taught. We are taught to ruminate about more or less all topics, as soon as we are capable of such thought. We are taught to ponder upon philosophy, art, music, life, the future, love and loss. There is little doubt that rumination has its place in the world. However, what we seem to forget is that the opposite has just as much of a place.
To ruminate, in my opinion, is a very difficult habit to break – most likely because of how much emphasis is placed on such thought. You may be wondering: why should this habit be broken? and you would be fair to question! To think deeply is to wonder, to wonder is to be amazed and to be amazed is, well, amazing.
Being able to wonder why something is the way it is is glorious. The act of wondering has the potential of allowing our imaginations to run wild; think back to childhood. How does Santa deliver all of those presents in one night? How does the tooth fairy sneak away unnoticed? Why is the sky blue?
Wondering and knowing are a dynamic duo capable of causing great satisfaction and great pain. In my childhood, I remember each of these questions being answered and also remember a sadness from knowing.
It wouldn’t be fair or correct to suggest that knowledge is something we should try and hide from, as obviously that’s rubbish! However, if you have the opportunity to allow someone’s imagination to thrive for a little while longer, I believe it would be unfair to deny them the pleasure of wondering. Very few people wonder as much as they are doing right now at this time in their lives. Ignorance can indeed be bliss.
To ruminate for the purpose of the answer is to starve ones self of one of the greatest pleasures in life. Wonder.
I was going to aim for some form of intense eloquence and intellect when creating a piece regarding this daily prompt but then thought, what the hell – lets make it real!
So recently I’ve gained a little weight and as a consequence I tend to jiggle a little bit more than I used to. I used to have a lot more time on my hands before I started working and focusing on university work – which is to be expected naturally, but it means that I have a lot less time to work out to the extent that I used to.
Whilst I have gained a little weight, I’m not gaining weight in a way which should cause concern. The point of this post is to reassure people that you’re going to change and develop. Your priorities are going to shift and you’re going to find yourself going through phases of having more time, then less, then more. This is natural! If your weight starts to slip a little, don’t worry about it. You can change your diet, cook a few vegetables up with a bit of chicken (or your vegetarian equivalent) and you’re sorted – healthy meal right there.
I want it to be understood that I’m not advocating letting yourself go, that would be foolish, I’m simply stating that there are so many more dimensions to a person than their weight. Learn to put up with a bit of jiggle from time to time! Your diet may go a little off track, your plans may overwhelm you a little, life may simply get in the way as it so often does regarding any issue.
What matters is that you realise that a little jiggle here and there isn’t the end of the world in the least.
In the past few years, since I have been from around the age of 16 – pregnancies amongst people I know have become extremely common. People I never thought would even want to have children, people who have always wanted children and people who have never held an opinion on the matter have all seemed to fall pregnant. Do people really understand the responsibility that goes with having a baby?
People understand the basic physical needs of a child pretty easily as we’re all trained to a small degree without really knowing it, through the use of observation and even playing with dolls at a young age. I’ve heard an absolutely insane range of reasons as to why people treat their children in the way they do, and this is why I believe there should be a lot more support for the soon-to-be mother – ideally for the father too but we’ll take baby steps! (I’m sorry, that pun was just waiting to be used)
I have never believed that anybody I know is a truly unfit parent – though unfit parents certainly exist. I simply believe that the parents I know lack enough education on the matter.
One thing I have heard over and over again is people saying things such as “I can’t believe how quickly I was left alone with my child” and “What do I do now?”. This, in my opinion of course, isn’t pleasant for anybody involved. I would love to see a society in which we are at least a little more prepared for the next 18 years of raising a child.
Jokes – little comments, images or moments in life that allow us to have a giggle. What could be more satisfying than that? Some jokes are just so terrible that they are hilarious, whilst others require an insane amount of intellect to understand (which often makes the joke sink).
However, there are some “jokes” that are not funny in the least. I thought I’d take advantage of this opportunity to raise awareness of how making a “joke” about a certain topic can crush people beyond belief. Obviously there are times in which jokes can relieve tension and yes, some jokes may be a little close to the bone dependent on your sense of humour – but we always know when a joke is no longer a joke, judging by the context it is used in and the reaction it sparks from others.
People seem to forget how closely bullying and lying can relate to joking. People seem to be able to cover all manner of idiocy and cruelty by simply saying it was a joke. “Joking” about people with glasses, people who are overweight, people with insecurities. These are all forms of “joke” that are totally unacceptable.
Don’t get me wrong – I have a great sense of humour and know how to take things light heartedly. I’m not stating that people should constantly be super vigilant of what they say to others, only that they use a little common sense. A general rule of thumb is generally “would I want to be the subject of this?”
Make all the jokes you will, laughing really does make the world go round! Just remember to think a little before you open your mouth, or send that picture or message. What may be a joke to you, could really impact someone else.