Tether

Tether

When most of us think of what tethering means, we have quite a negative perspective of how it can be applied to our own lives. Most people – in my humble experience – see being tethered as being constrained and feeling almost imprisoned. What if being tethered simply wasn’t this big evil construct weighing down on us, keeping us from progressing down a particular road?

When we tether an object, we do so to keep it same and to keep it from moving in a direction in which it shouldn’t be going. For all intents and purposes, being tethered is an extremely positive thing when it comes to the physical possessions in our lives, it keeps them close to us and stops them from disappearing!

Why then do we have these negative perceptions about being ‘tethered down’? Surely if we apply the same logic to ourselves as we do to our possessions in that positive regard (and we should always view one another more positively than we do possessions) then it isn’t such a bad thing after all. To truly understand this believe though, we need to look at why we feel as though we are tethered down in the first place. From what I’ve seen within my own life and in other people’s lives, the tethering is usually performed by the individual who ends up feeling as though they are ‘tethered’.

Would it be easy to cut this tether if we really wanted to? Or does this bring us back to the original point, that a tether is actually a safety feature built in to some of us? Share your thoughts.

Pluck

Pluck

Searching for new ideas can be extremely difficult in any situation should the mood not be right. Whether it’s in a theoretical, practical or intellectual sense, finding ideas can be extremely hard. With this in mind, I think it’s about time I addressed my overwhelming jealousy of people who seem to be able to pluck ideas from the deepest depths of their minds.

Now, the reason I use the term ‘seem’ is because I am well aware that these ideas generally come from a deep understanding of the area in which they are thinking up ideas for and that’s what amazes me. Understanding a topic is a wonderful thing and quite possibly an extremely underrated thing within society, but to be able to actually come up with new ideas and seem to pluck them from nowhere is just magical. Not only does it require understanding, it requires a level of self-believe and charisma that is not often seen. Many of us may have these ideas but simply have little faith in their ability that we push them aside as quickly as they enter our minds.

Not to put too fine a point on it, but to use the word ‘pluck’ in this context seems almost unfair to the people who actually have these ideas, no matter how simple or complex. Plucking by definition is the act of taking something and quickly removing it from its place. Now I have had a few ideas in the past and I refuse to believe that they were simply ‘plucked’, more that they were painstakingly toyed and tinkered with until I felt they were refined enough to actually voice and even then, they were not always heeded.

I don’t intend to suggest that people who use this term are using it to cause offence, of course not, often it is used in admiration! The issue I believe is present is just this particular word seems to diminish something which we probably all diminish every day. An invention, design or creation of a new concept that quite possibly is original to that particular thinker. An idea, whether it seems mighty or small, should be given the due credit it deserves.

Commit

Commit

One common definition of committing – and the most widely used most would agree – is to pledge one’s self to a certain cause. Whether that cause is great or small, to commit to something means to stick it out. How many of us have actually managed to commit to something for a long period of time?

New Years Day is a fantastic example of this. Without trying to sound like a cynic, millions of people will experience the ticking over of the current year to the next and believe that this is their time to commit to a particular course of action, whether this is to lose weight or to quit smoking or to devote more time to themselves. Most people fail in this, and fail quite quickly. What is our issue with committing to something?

Time. Time is the issue. Universally, time has always been an issue with people either believing that they have too much or not enough. We as a species want to see results that we believe are worth the time we commit to these (mostly) self-improving actions. Sadly, most of us are stuck in a world in which we believe fairness exists and that we should be compensated accordingly for time spent “living without”.

From my own experiences, I have found that I am unable to commit to a lot of things because of a selflessness that gets in the way. I will move the Earth for people who need assistance without reason but when it comes to committing to doing something for myself however, I struggle massively. When we assist others in one of their commitments, we see an instant reaction and as a consequence gain an immediate sense of accomplishment. This recompense seems adequate to the amount of time we put in.

In order to be able to commit to something fully, we need to understand that we are worth just as must as our family member and our best friend and we do not need any more of a reason to commit to something other than “because I want to”.

Appreciate your own commitments as much as you appreciate others’.

Why the store manager is doomed.

After undertaking three years of studying within the field of Management and Business, I have learned a wealth of theories that work in a wealth of hypothetical situations and ideal worlds. What I’ll be touching upon now is why the average store manager, in charge of a wide demographic, will never seem to be a successful manager in the eyes of employees.

Within management theories there are a wealth of theories that suggest “if you allow X to happen, employee will flourish”. This is all well and good, we all love when X causes employees to flourish! What these theories do not remind us is that they only tend to be somewhat successful in the setting in which they were theorised and researched. Which brings me on to the store manager.

I work part-time (though recently a lot more than that) at a supermarket in which hundreds of people are employed from a wide range of educational and personal backgrounds. As a student who appreciates how difficult it must be to manage such a wide variation of people and allow them to be somewhat happy within the workplace, I do think my manager is extremely successful within their job – but this belief is only partially shared.

For a manager to be successful, they need to be able to use incentives and levels of interaction which are favourable to the employees without being too favourable towards any particular employee, which automatically brings about a massive hurdle as employees all want different things. Some want financial reward, other progression, others recognition, and others just simply want to be left alone. This factor, combined with the fact that the manager has a difficult job of their own to complete to me suggests that no store manager is ever going to be considered successful by their employees as a majority.

Theories of successful leadership rely on a very similar demographic wanting the same rewards. In a setting in which people may be working part time to assist their studies, or in which people have been working full-time for 30 years, this level of success seems regrettably unattainable.

Joke

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Jokes – little comments, images or moments in life that allow us to have a giggle. What could be more satisfying than that? Some jokes are just so terrible that they are hilarious, whilst others require an insane amount of intellect to understand (which often makes the joke sink).

However, there are some “jokes” that are not funny in the least. I thought I’d take advantage of this opportunity to raise awareness of how making a “joke” about a certain topic can crush people beyond belief. Obviously there are times in which jokes can relieve tension and yes, some jokes may be a little close to the bone dependent on your sense of humour – but we always know when a joke is no longer a joke, judging by the context it is used in and the reaction it sparks from others.

People seem to forget how closely bullying and lying can relate to joking. People seem to be able to cover all manner of idiocy and cruelty by simply saying it was a joke. “Joking” about people with glasses, people who are overweight, people with insecurities. These are all forms of “joke” that are totally unacceptable.

Don’t get me wrong – I have a great sense of humour and know how to take things light heartedly. I’m not stating that people should constantly be super vigilant of what they say to others, only that they use a little common sense. A general rule of thumb is generally “would I want to be the subject of this?”

Make all the jokes you will, laughing really does make the world go round! Just remember to think a little before you open your mouth, or send that picture or message. What may be a joke to you, could really impact someone else.