To the majority of people, this word means the same thing and that is; “a remarkable concurrence of events or circumstances without apparent causal connection.”. These coincidences can be particularly mundane such as you and your friend wearing the same shirt to a night out, or they can be much more significant. One such significance that the world seems to revel in, is the sun and moon aligning.
The meaning behind coincidence however varies massively between different people. Some people are quite happy with just accepting that coincidences happen ‘just because’, whereas other people are not quite satisfied with that answer and look for a deeper meaning within this area. There are also a wealth of people who believe that coincidence doesn’t exist at all and prefer to think of things as fate and enjoy the term “synchronicity”.
I often think that my girlfriend and I get along better than most people, which leads me to believe that our meeting was a coincidence. My girlfriend and I both have one mutual friend, I happened to befriend this girl on my first day of university as my girlfriend also did – my girlfriend and I were both invited to the same party and we hit it off. The chances of us both being invited to the same party were quite high as we are both friends with this girl, the chances of us both enjoying each others company more than anybody else’s though? These deeper questions are the ones that cause us to look further into coincidence.
I have to admit that I personally don’t look too deeply into coincidence, no reason for it at all apart from the fact that I don’t often put that much thought into it. Some people however are capable of putting extreme thought into it and where I see something as coincidence, others may see it as a sign.
This is quite often seen within a religious aspect. Somebody may pray for a member of their family to recover from a sickness, and a few days later find that said family member has started to recover from said sickness. Coincidence? Divine intervention? Who am I to suggest a definite answer – people know they are welcome to believe whatever brings them the most peace and what they believe to be true.
I do often wish I could see things as more than I do. I would love to believe that coincidence is really a sign from a deity that things are planned in a certain way, but I also despise the thought of having so little control over my own life. This issue by any means is not a new one and has caused debate for as long as philosophical debates have occurred.
Share your opinions!
I recently began a volunteer role as a ‘University Angel’. This role essential allows me to keep people safe on the university campus whilst they enjoy themselves at our club. As this project is extremely new I was particularly dubious as to how successful it may be.
I arrived an hour early for my shift in order to properly debrief and understand what we would realistically do throughout the night. At this point, I took tentative steps into the ‘base’ area as I filled with excitement, nerves and anticipation and saw a couple of other people seeming to be as conflicted as myself.
My issue is that I have a hero complex, meaning that I take it upon myself to try and save the world which isn’t just highly impractical but also impossible unfortunately. Walking around that campus with my like-minded buddy was probably one of the most rewarding things I have ever done and I hope to be a part of the expansion of such a vital service for our students.
If given the opportunity to do something like this, I would wholeheartedly recommend you pursue it – both rewarding and extremely positive.
When hearing the term “paying homage”, our minds often go straight to big religious figures or pilgrimages – which isn’t necessarily wrong but rather unnecessarily narrow-minded if we believe these are the only things we can pay homage to.
The term “homage” is defined as “special honour or respect shown publicly” which bursts our preconceived definition of the term wide open. Homage by this definition, is something that would benefit the modern workplace tenfold – with a wide variety of studies arguing that financial incentive only provide employees with a low level of motivation. Paying homage to employees is widely regarded as one of the most effective means of motivating them.
At my workplace, we have a personal gift card that has funds added to it when we have done something particularly well. This is a nice idea but when compared to the idea of receiving praise for a job well done, the praise to me personally hands-down takes the lead. Whether this is because I have a greater need for recognition whereas other employees may have that same level of need for money, or because it’s simply nice to have the ego fluffed a little whilst knowing you’re getting a wage regardless, I’m uncertain.
To summarise, if we were to use the term “homage” properly and to its full potential, we may be able to show people that they are greatly appreciated as something that is much more than a resource or a commodity. Allowing people to be paid homage to without a judgement regarding what is worthy of it may just be what gives somebody that extra energy to go through their day attempting to do the same.
When most of us think of what tethering means, we have quite a negative perspective of how it can be applied to our own lives. Most people – in my humble experience – see being tethered as being constrained and feeling almost imprisoned. What if being tethered simply wasn’t this big evil construct weighing down on us, keeping us from progressing down a particular road?
When we tether an object, we do so to keep it same and to keep it from moving in a direction in which it shouldn’t be going. For all intents and purposes, being tethered is an extremely positive thing when it comes to the physical possessions in our lives, it keeps them close to us and stops them from disappearing!
Why then do we have these negative perceptions about being ‘tethered down’? Surely if we apply the same logic to ourselves as we do to our possessions in that positive regard (and we should always view one another more positively than we do possessions) then it isn’t such a bad thing after all. To truly understand this believe though, we need to look at why we feel as though we are tethered down in the first place. From what I’ve seen within my own life and in other people’s lives, the tethering is usually performed by the individual who ends up feeling as though they are ‘tethered’.
Would it be easy to cut this tether if we really wanted to? Or does this bring us back to the original point, that a tether is actually a safety feature built in to some of us? Share your thoughts.
Searching for new ideas can be extremely difficult in any situation should the mood not be right. Whether it’s in a theoretical, practical or intellectual sense, finding ideas can be extremely hard. With this in mind, I think it’s about time I addressed my overwhelming jealousy of people who seem to be able to pluck ideas from the deepest depths of their minds.
Now, the reason I use the term ‘seem’ is because I am well aware that these ideas generally come from a deep understanding of the area in which they are thinking up ideas for and that’s what amazes me. Understanding a topic is a wonderful thing and quite possibly an extremely underrated thing within society, but to be able to actually come up with new ideas and seem to pluck them from nowhere is just magical. Not only does it require understanding, it requires a level of self-believe and charisma that is not often seen. Many of us may have these ideas but simply have little faith in their ability that we push them aside as quickly as they enter our minds.
Not to put too fine a point on it, but to use the word ‘pluck’ in this context seems almost unfair to the people who actually have these ideas, no matter how simple or complex. Plucking by definition is the act of taking something and quickly removing it from its place. Now I have had a few ideas in the past and I refuse to believe that they were simply ‘plucked’, more that they were painstakingly toyed and tinkered with until I felt they were refined enough to actually voice and even then, they were not always heeded.
I don’t intend to suggest that people who use this term are using it to cause offence, of course not, often it is used in admiration! The issue I believe is present is just this particular word seems to diminish something which we probably all diminish every day. An invention, design or creation of a new concept that quite possibly is original to that particular thinker. An idea, whether it seems mighty or small, should be given the due credit it deserves.
One common definition of committing – and the most widely used most would agree – is to pledge one’s self to a certain cause. Whether that cause is great or small, to commit to something means to stick it out. How many of us have actually managed to commit to something for a long period of time?
New Years Day is a fantastic example of this. Without trying to sound like a cynic, millions of people will experience the ticking over of the current year to the next and believe that this is their time to commit to a particular course of action, whether this is to lose weight or to quit smoking or to devote more time to themselves. Most people fail in this, and fail quite quickly. What is our issue with committing to something?
Time. Time is the issue. Universally, time has always been an issue with people either believing that they have too much or not enough. We as a species want to see results that we believe are worth the time we commit to these (mostly) self-improving actions. Sadly, most of us are stuck in a world in which we believe fairness exists and that we should be compensated accordingly for time spent “living without”.
From my own experiences, I have found that I am unable to commit to a lot of things because of a selflessness that gets in the way. I will move the Earth for people who need assistance without reason but when it comes to committing to doing something for myself however, I struggle massively. When we assist others in one of their commitments, we see an instant reaction and as a consequence gain an immediate sense of accomplishment. This recompense seems adequate to the amount of time we put in.
In order to be able to commit to something fully, we need to understand that we are worth just as must as our family member and our best friend and we do not need any more of a reason to commit to something other than “because I want to”.
Appreciate your own commitments as much as you appreciate others’.
After undertaking three years of studying within the field of Management and Business, I have learned a wealth of theories that work in a wealth of hypothetical situations and ideal worlds. What I’ll be touching upon now is why the average store manager, in charge of a wide demographic, will never seem to be a successful manager in the eyes of employees.
Within management theories there are a wealth of theories that suggest “if you allow X to happen, employee will flourish”. This is all well and good, we all love when X causes employees to flourish! What these theories do not remind us is that they only tend to be somewhat successful in the setting in which they were theorised and researched. Which brings me on to the store manager.
I work part-time (though recently a lot more than that) at a supermarket in which hundreds of people are employed from a wide range of educational and personal backgrounds. As a student who appreciates how difficult it must be to manage such a wide variation of people and allow them to be somewhat happy within the workplace, I do think my manager is extremely successful within their job – but this belief is only partially shared.
For a manager to be successful, they need to be able to use incentives and levels of interaction which are favourable to the employees without being too favourable towards any particular employee, which automatically brings about a massive hurdle as employees all want different things. Some want financial reward, other progression, others recognition, and others just simply want to be left alone. This factor, combined with the fact that the manager has a difficult job of their own to complete to me suggests that no store manager is ever going to be considered successful by their employees as a majority.
Theories of successful leadership rely on a very similar demographic wanting the same rewards. In a setting in which people may be working part time to assist their studies, or in which people have been working full-time for 30 years, this level of success seems regrettably unattainable.