One common definition of committing – and the most widely used most would agree – is to pledge one’s self to a certain cause. Whether that cause is great or small, to commit to something means to stick it out. How many of us have actually managed to commit to something for a long period of time?
New Years Day is a fantastic example of this. Without trying to sound like a cynic, millions of people will experience the ticking over of the current year to the next and believe that this is their time to commit to a particular course of action, whether this is to lose weight or to quit smoking or to devote more time to themselves. Most people fail in this, and fail quite quickly. What is our issue with committing to something?
Time. Time is the issue. Universally, time has always been an issue with people either believing that they have too much or not enough. We as a species want to see results that we believe are worth the time we commit to these (mostly) self-improving actions. Sadly, most of us are stuck in a world in which we believe fairness exists and that we should be compensated accordingly for time spent “living without”.
From my own experiences, I have found that I am unable to commit to a lot of things because of a selflessness that gets in the way. I will move the Earth for people who need assistance without reason but when it comes to committing to doing something for myself however, I struggle massively. When we assist others in one of their commitments, we see an instant reaction and as a consequence gain an immediate sense of accomplishment. This recompense seems adequate to the amount of time we put in.
In order to be able to commit to something fully, we need to understand that we are worth just as must as our family member and our best friend and we do not need any more of a reason to commit to something other than “because I want to”.
Appreciate your own commitments as much as you appreciate others’.
After undertaking three years of studying within the field of Management and Business, I have learned a wealth of theories that work in a wealth of hypothetical situations and ideal worlds. What I’ll be touching upon now is why the average store manager, in charge of a wide demographic, will never seem to be a successful manager in the eyes of employees.
Within management theories there are a wealth of theories that suggest “if you allow X to happen, employee will flourish”. This is all well and good, we all love when X causes employees to flourish! What these theories do not remind us is that they only tend to be somewhat successful in the setting in which they were theorised and researched. Which brings me on to the store manager.
I work part-time (though recently a lot more than that) at a supermarket in which hundreds of people are employed from a wide range of educational and personal backgrounds. As a student who appreciates how difficult it must be to manage such a wide variation of people and allow them to be somewhat happy within the workplace, I do think my manager is extremely successful within their job – but this belief is only partially shared.
For a manager to be successful, they need to be able to use incentives and levels of interaction which are favourable to the employees without being too favourable towards any particular employee, which automatically brings about a massive hurdle as employees all want different things. Some want financial reward, other progression, others recognition, and others just simply want to be left alone. This factor, combined with the fact that the manager has a difficult job of their own to complete to me suggests that no store manager is ever going to be considered successful by their employees as a majority.
Theories of successful leadership rely on a very similar demographic wanting the same rewards. In a setting in which people may be working part time to assist their studies, or in which people have been working full-time for 30 years, this level of success seems regrettably unattainable.
Jokes – little comments, images or moments in life that allow us to have a giggle. What could be more satisfying than that? Some jokes are just so terrible that they are hilarious, whilst others require an insane amount of intellect to understand (which often makes the joke sink).
However, there are some “jokes” that are not funny in the least. I thought I’d take advantage of this opportunity to raise awareness of how making a “joke” about a certain topic can crush people beyond belief. Obviously there are times in which jokes can relieve tension and yes, some jokes may be a little close to the bone dependent on your sense of humour – but we always know when a joke is no longer a joke, judging by the context it is used in and the reaction it sparks from others.
People seem to forget how closely bullying and lying can relate to joking. People seem to be able to cover all manner of idiocy and cruelty by simply saying it was a joke. “Joking” about people with glasses, people who are overweight, people with insecurities. These are all forms of “joke” that are totally unacceptable.
Don’t get me wrong – I have a great sense of humour and know how to take things light heartedly. I’m not stating that people should constantly be super vigilant of what they say to others, only that they use a little common sense. A general rule of thumb is generally “would I want to be the subject of this?”
Make all the jokes you will, laughing really does make the world go round! Just remember to think a little before you open your mouth, or send that picture or message. What may be a joke to you, could really impact someone else.