When I was growing up, my family had very little money and as a consequence I didn’t have the opportunity to enjoy the same things as the other kids. Though, when I was around 6 years old I received one of the best gifts a 6 year old with very little could ask for; a giant magnet
That magnet was possibly the most fascinating object of my early childhood. Obviously you’re all dying to know what was so special about this magnet, so I shall shed some light. This magnet was roughly the same size as a dinner plate and had extremely strong levels of magnetism – I had never experienced a magnet that size in my life and revered the kind gent who gave me this gift as a god.
I have a giant metal pole in the centre of my garden. Giant magnet + giant pole = one entertained little boy. I would carry this gigantic magnet to the pole and wait for it to be almost sucked out of my hands, and then spend hours trying to remove it or see how long I could hold it next to the pole for before I gave in and released.
It is with an extremely heavy heart that I say this – the magnet was soon thrown away as we begun to tidy up the garden and I was a particularly sad child for some time after this. Thinking back now, it’s amazing how much time I spent playing with this magnet and metal pole and I’m so happy that something so simple was able to afford me so much happiness.
When hearing the term “paying homage”, our minds often go straight to big religious figures or pilgrimages – which isn’t necessarily wrong but rather unnecessarily narrow-minded if we believe these are the only things we can pay homage to.
The term “homage” is defined as “special honour or respect shown publicly” which bursts our preconceived definition of the term wide open. Homage by this definition, is something that would benefit the modern workplace tenfold – with a wide variety of studies arguing that financial incentive only provide employees with a low level of motivation. Paying homage to employees is widely regarded as one of the most effective means of motivating them.
At my workplace, we have a personal gift card that has funds added to it when we have done something particularly well. This is a nice idea but when compared to the idea of receiving praise for a job well done, the praise to me personally hands-down takes the lead. Whether this is because I have a greater need for recognition whereas other employees may have that same level of need for money, or because it’s simply nice to have the ego fluffed a little whilst knowing you’re getting a wage regardless, I’m uncertain.
To summarise, if we were to use the term “homage” properly and to its full potential, we may be able to show people that they are greatly appreciated as something that is much more than a resource or a commodity. Allowing people to be paid homage to without a judgement regarding what is worthy of it may just be what gives somebody that extra energy to go through their day attempting to do the same.
As a graduate with a BA in Management and Business, I have gained several skills that allow me to be rather eloquent and often successful within interviews. For the first time in my adult life, I had what I would describe as a terrible interview and I’d love to share the reasons with you.
I should stress before beginning, the ironic thing about this whole experience is that I was head-hunted for this role and did not actually seek it out on my own volition.
The first thing that seemed to be going wrong for me was the level of tension between the CEO and myself. He seemed to be particularly uninterested and more adamant on picking apart my CV and trying to trip me up rather than trying to understand why I would be suitable for the role and what I could bring to the organisation. This led to me feeling as though I was justifying every decision I had ever made academically.
Secondly – and an issue that is extremely common in panel interviews – the interviewers, of which there were three, were almost clones of one another with all three of them wearing the exact same clothes and acting in the same way. This suggests to an external party that the CEO is either particularly influential and inspires others to act like him, or the company prefers a very particular dress code. Judging on my experience, the former is unlikely.
Finally, a point that is vital to my predicted lack of success, the CEO did not listen and seemed to lack any understanding of what I was saying. This in itself is extremely frustrating, as it shows an ego that soars through the clouds and represents a mind that had seemed to wander through them too. At the end of the interview, the CEO almost seemed to be diminishing the role in what seemed like an attempt to put me off, which was extremely disheartening and quite frankly very awkward to endure.
So that’s the lowdown of my first bad interview. I have yet to hear back from the company but was promised feedback through the recruitment specialist who initially contacted me. I know lots of people have similar stories, please share them if you’re comfortable!
Wednesday was a big day for me, as I graduated with a BA in Management and Business. Whilst I am fortunate in the fact that I still have my MSc in Human Resource Management to undertake before I will be searching for a job, the thought of actually having no education after this point is absolutely terrifying.
As the first person in my family to attend university and obtain a degree, there was no family pressure whatsoever – to the point in which there was almost too little pressure to do anything – and this “allowed” me to go in whichever direction I saw fit. Whilst freedom is a wonderful thing, in this regard it was extremely daunting and whilst I don’t regret the direction I went in, I really fear for the future.
I know what I want to do, but getting to that point is going to be a big challenge as I feel very alone in this journey. This next chapter is going to be particularly difficult and is very daunting, but here’s hoping that it’s worthwhile.
It isn’t often I get the chance to be this proud of someone so I thought I would relish this feeling the best way I know how; by writing a small piece on it!
My girlfriend will be graduating today with a 2:1 in her degree and I am possibly the proudest human alive on our good planet. As a couple we have had struggles throughout our university years and she and I have both combated personal demons that at times could have ruined our chance to obtain our degrees and could have destroyed our states of mind simultaneously.
Today however, is the day that makes it all seem worth it. She will be sitting there with her robe on, scroll in hand, sipping prosecco like there is no tomorrow and she will be feeling almost as proud of herself as I feel of her. All I can hope for now is just as much skill and happiness throughout her Masters degree, which I have no doubt she will achieve a wonderful grade in.
Today is all about you, Alexia. You’ve earned this victory. Savour it.
I was once described as savage, can you believe? At the time I thought it was a little unreasonable and now I believe it to be downright, well, savage.
The reason behind this was because of a girlfriend I had a few years ago. We were dating for a good few months, mainly long-distance and things just began to fall apart and feelings (that were not particularly strong to begin with) dwindled on my part into pretty much nothing. My solution to this – I attempted to break up with her in person when I went to see her, I explained the situation and she asked for us to attempt a form of break instead.
At the time I had very little faith in the idea of a break – though my perception has dramatically changed in very recent times – as I didn’t have feelings for this person anymore and I couldn’t really understand how time apart would remedy this. As expected, time indeed make no impact on my feelings and they remained the same, so a week after this break was initiated I called her on Skype and explained the situation, ended the relationship and cut off all contact as fast as I could as I believe this was to everybody’s best interest in this particular situation.
My friend however disagreed massively and said I was extremely harsh and savage.
To me, dragging out a relationship and lying about my feelings would have been a lot more savage and would have been of no benefit to either of us in that situation. From this I took the following; is savagery in the context of humanity and emotion different to that within other contexts, or was what I did simply savage or not so? In my mind, a more savage response would have been to lie in order to seemingly spare feelings.
Does cowardice play a part in our perceptions of savagery or was there simply a difference in opinion?
It isn’t often that I start a post with a photo – but I thought these photos from my day at the beach today deserved a little attention.
My girlfriend and I have been getting weighed down recently because of our increasingly demanding jobs that we seem to have gained simultaneously, so we decided that we needed a quick and easy getaway whilst we were still capable. What better place than the beach?!
The weather was absolutely fantastic as you can see from the photos the sky was gorgeous, the sailors were in full swing and the fair was buzzing while we were there. Fish and chips were consumed along with ice cream and doughnuts, money was wasted in the arcades and stones were skipped (kind of) along the water.
I could go on about how amazing the day was and explain every second of it in detail, but I would much rather you all just simply took half a day and kept it just for an event like this, enjoying the beach with your loved ones is something that should never be treated as a minor event. I’ve had one of the best days I have had in a particularly long time, and these are the things that keep me going.