One common definition of committing – and the most widely used most would agree – is to pledge one’s self to a certain cause. Whether that cause is great or small, to commit to something means to stick it out. How many of us have actually managed to commit to something for a long period of time?
New Years Day is a fantastic example of this. Without trying to sound like a cynic, millions of people will experience the ticking over of the current year to the next and believe that this is their time to commit to a particular course of action, whether this is to lose weight or to quit smoking or to devote more time to themselves. Most people fail in this, and fail quite quickly. What is our issue with committing to something?
Time. Time is the issue. Universally, time has always been an issue with people either believing that they have too much or not enough. We as a species want to see results that we believe are worth the time we commit to these (mostly) self-improving actions. Sadly, most of us are stuck in a world in which we believe fairness exists and that we should be compensated accordingly for time spent “living without”.
From my own experiences, I have found that I am unable to commit to a lot of things because of a selflessness that gets in the way. I will move the Earth for people who need assistance without reason but when it comes to committing to doing something for myself however, I struggle massively. When we assist others in one of their commitments, we see an instant reaction and as a consequence gain an immediate sense of accomplishment. This recompense seems adequate to the amount of time we put in.
In order to be able to commit to something fully, we need to understand that we are worth just as must as our family member and our best friend and we do not need any more of a reason to commit to something other than “because I want to”.
Appreciate your own commitments as much as you appreciate others’.